my policy with my kids was always be honest and up front and treat them like adults or young adults what ever the case may be and also age appropriate! She sees me smoke across the yard and it is a normal thing to her as both her parents smoke cigs 
she is only 3 and for her it’s more about time with me and motor skills development filling cups with dirt and water and pretending to have a tea party:rofl: she is “a real little helper” but as a grandparent my patients are endless 
O.G. the world.
on a related topic both my kids turned out to be great humans that are compassionate, strong and successful if I do say so myself 
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