My immediate family are all dead and have been for decades. There’s very little conflict or drama, and nobody’s feelings are ever hurt. Quite uncomplicated, if nothing else…
Usually, I distract myself by reminding myself that most people are subconsciously saying the latter, at least a little bit. Sometimes it works better than others. Sometimes I cling stubbornly to traditions and cook a Christmas ham, then eat the leftovers till February.