We are opposites there…can’t stand my sperm donor and haven’t seen him in ~25 yrs. Anyhow, maintaining a close relationship with either parent in adulthood is very special that not a lot of people are able to achieve for whatever personal reason
You are very fortunate to live in such an optimal environment for year round gardening…lived in SF for a few yrs (my oldest son was born there) and miss it sometimes though have a lot more freedom here as well as, family even though have to endure 8-9 month winters with mostly cold summers - indoor gardening to the rescue!!!