Doesn’t that make me Napoleon?
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Man, I have met like 5 Napoleons in my life time and I still cant find a decent baguette. 
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Scuze me??
Draig is so goddamned OCD/ADHD that, despite ‘‘working together’’ HE is the Boss—Even when he can’t work with me,–I better be doing things HIS way- or be damned certain I have a good reason to do otherwise! Most men I find to be the same way…
Maybe it isn’t that the women want to be boss-- it’s that men can’t relinquish ANY power/say so working with women on projects…?
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I’m a lone grower. My wife offers to help but she just doesn’t have the level of OCD I have with the hobby. I need to be able to see all the plants daily to make sure they’re doing well, or I just get nervous. She’ll throw in for costs every now and then but I’m always buying new shit so I mainly just have her pay for soil.
I don’t even smoke anymore lol I just grow for her and to give away, to get really good at making concentrates, and to try to grow the best weed I can. I just love growing and watching them develop
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My wife doesn’t smoke. She has tried the edibles mainly to distract her from her arthritis. Which has kept her from the actual plants. We are both plant people though.
I personally never kept ‘houseplants’ before. I have been in the garden and helping in the greenhouse since I was 8 years old. Mom would move plants in the yard the way some people rearrange furniture.
She is in a nursing home now. I have brought her plants and they line the window in her room. She cannot stand anymore.
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Hahaha, guess he still hasnt learned… all the things i have missed! Lol got himself caught tonight using same as i said about his new shit! Lol mine now! Haha he’s right OUR NEW SHIRT IS 
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I grow it, she smokes it. When I get into passionate speeches about growing or genetics she just hits the joint, smiles and nods. Her eyes glaze over and she spaces out lol. At the end of my speech I say “so…whatcha think?” She’ll hit me with the “I think you’re cute 
” which is all I could ever ask for lol. But I’ve tried to get her in the garden but she “don’t wanna kill our babies”. She’s convinced she has a brown thumb but she’s never tried growing anything. Maybe she’s just not interested lol you can lead a horse to water, but…
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Also, I dont believe I have ever made Mr.paws sleep on the couch in 10+ years of living together! (in fact when illness makes me stay out of bed too many nights its an issue) but never kept each other from own bed or room at bedtime. There’s a difference in taking away someone’s space and literally taking away their own space! In our world! I think everyone deserves both!
No judging but if i fear fighting something out with my spouse is going to result in unnecessary consequences then maybe i wont speak up for my self as much. Coming from a child that watched her mother so easily silenced just by father’s presence( although never actually seeing him hit her the manipulation is embeded too deeply that I apply in too many ways to avoid being toxic like that to anyone who chooses to be around me. Not just my husband!
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Haha, my SO is funny.
She wants absolutely nothing to do with getting dirt under her nails. So, I’m doing the prep work and taking care of the starts until ready to transplant outdoors.
As soon as they get transplanted and established though, she becomes the queen of bondage. It’s a remarkable transformation, she owns that garden. Pops on a boonie hat and with a roll of that vinyl strechy tape in hand, she’s out there daily manipulating, staking, adding structure, filling in every inch of space with vegetation. It’s like the Rube Goldberg of plants. God bless. I’m waaay too lazy to have such persistence and vision.
So, she owns the outdoor plot. I do the indoor/greenhouse/herby stuff. The division of labor has worked well.
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Ya i work alone my wife don’t smoke lol I’m like come check out my ladies she’s like OMG why ur out there all the time lol well she came out the other night an squeezed a bud an yelled holy shit those are rock solid an sticky like super sticky an smells good an that was it lol
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The grow room is my domain. My partner helps with some of the heavy lifting and bending tasks, as my body doesn’t do some of those well. Washing hydroton is a major task he takes off my list, for which I am incredibly grateful. Everything else is all me.
He’s supportive and has encouraged me through the whole process, and is very patient when I ramble at him about the plants and various things I’ve modified. Glad to have OG since a lot of stuff about it is not remotely interesting to him. 
And he’s an extreme lightweight tolerance-wise, so he might sample my harvest, but it’s primarily for my benefit.
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Our 35th Anniversary was a week ago… and together 18 month before that…have NEVER made him sleep on the couch, I have gone to bed in the living room MAYBE twice- but he always has me come back once he has had time to chill, and we talk it out.
Like you have noted, If you can’t communicate- a relationship is NOT likely to last! 
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No matter how mad or upset you are, always end the night with, “I Love You.”
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OG - I Love You 
Good Night all 
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It’s my space…indoors or out. My wife’s involvement can be categorized as “I need another jar”.
And other than the Net…I have no “growmies” or partners in any of this. Years ago…yes…we were rolling hard and my buddy was in the mix. However, as often happens…the grow was at my house so I spent far more time with all of it than he did. We are really good friends so I just let things roll until HE finally said “Yer doing all the work/taking the risk…I’m gonna step out”.
Without sales anymore…I’m just growing and stacking pounds in the corner 
I’m sure I’m not alone in that shit.
be safe out there.
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