For the last year or so I have been contemplating telling mom I’m legal and have been smoking pot more for my medical issues.
Today was the first convo I have had with her int weeks and she launched into a rant about the state of missouri letting people have marijuana
Apparently since they allowed medical marijuana people are now running their cars right up in her bumper. She says they must be losing heir depth perception. Yea sure mom, it’s not because you drive like you are 84 years old…soon to be 85 in August
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Now that it’s legal it’s nice to be able to discuss it honestly with my parents. I give them advice.
But some people will never accept it.
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Never really understood the coming out of the closet as a smoker thing. My mom has to know I smoke, I openly discussed legalization with my uncle who smokes at a few Thanksgivings so if there was any doubt in her mind that probably took away it away (even though I phrased it as just getting my uncle’s thoughts since he openly smokes). Just never felt the need to have that confessional.
I actually wouldn’t be too surprised if she smoked sometimes yet it never comes up. She could ask me and I’d be honest with her but it’s never bothered me not mentioning it. I guess if she asked me if I had any or asked me to smoke with her it could be cool though.
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tell her some people can’t poop with out it & their alternative is a surgically severed sphincter & bag set-up. 
and get her a clip on mirror…‘objects in mirror are actually not that close, lady’. 
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Finest point on the thread yet…
Also a good point… With my family I have an uncle and sister that smoke…even though it’s legal they aren’t fans… Everyone knows we do, but noone (including us) talk about it, unless they wanna bring up something and we either have a slightly educated discussion or a heated argument… Usually the latter so I just curb my wrong skill cave most of the time… Easier that way.
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You gotta realize that her generation and the way she was always raised to think is based off of lies and propaganda. After being told your entire life that something is bad and/or wrong, it’s going to be difficult to persuade you otherwise. Being involved with cannabis and in the cannabis community has made all of us much more aware of the reality and facts behind our beloved MaryJane. Most of the science that we’ve known for years is just recently being more public knowledge, and is gaining more scientific backing. In the end, it’s always good to try to educate and inform others on the facts about cannabis, but sometimes you can’t teach an old dog a new trick.
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I think you are right. It depends on your circumstances, It’s similar to a gay guy coming out of the closet. Some people are never going to accept it. I’m selective on who I talk to about cannabis use. Some will never understand or except.
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Yes since I’m have a relatively public job with a certain societal expectations I’m careful about who I share it with. Hell my best buddy at work is an old school military type…I haven’t told him but suspect he knows
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I’ve always been affiliated with military or a gov contractor, so I understand that. Now I’m living in a legal state AND retired, I don’t care so much anymore. it will be nice when we can all relax about the whole subject.
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Here is a bone to chew on. I left my church because I knew none of them would accept the fact that I medicate now.
I’m not into living two lives and I won’t.
Only choice was leave.
And trust me, it’s hard for someone to change their way of looking at weed. I still struggle with it sometimes. I was raised thinking that it was bad and those that used it were layabouts.
We know that isn’t true. It got me off of opioids that were taking my life away from me and gave it back. How can that be bad right?
And still sometimes the old teaching rings in my ear.
Go figure.
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I can understand that and obviously different strokes for different folks but I’ve never viewed it as a double life. Weed is a decent sized part of my life but it isn’t the driving factor, it doesn’t define me. I play guitar but most people don’t and don’t really want to hear about playing so I just don’t talk to them about it. Doesn’t feel like I’m hiding that part of myself or anything, I just know my audience. Again there’s no right or wrong one size fits all so I’m not trying to take anything away from you when you say you felt like it would be living two lives. Just offering up my $.02
Congrats on getting off the opiates! I was on them for almost a decade and marijuana gave me my life back from them as well so I know how life changing it is. I had smoked recreationally earlier in life but had stopped. Never thought my teenage pastime would turn into what gave me my life back.
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Mark Twain said that it’s easier to fool people than to convince them that they have been fooled.
And that persuasion usually has to be with broader and dramatic changes.
I don’t think it’s worth doing that to older people
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@MoBilly same here, I think they based snl church lady on my mom. There are many things about my life she doesn’t know and doesn’t care to
Like you I sometimes feel guilty bout toking, certain strains are more introspective that way I think.
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And who made you do it? Could it be mmmmm…SATAN?
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Absolutely this. About weed or otherwise. Know your audience.
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I get that. I’m just saying this:
I care about those that I sat beside for so many years. I know how they feel about this. I also know that it would only take one slip up (spacing on a shower before going to town and running into a friend…) to let those around you know that you are smoking. I’ve seen it before.
My friends wish to raise their children to believe a certain way. That is their choice and rightly so.
I would never want one of my friends to think, because their child found out Billy was doing it, they’d try it.
My choice to leave is because I live in a small community. Secrets are near impossible to keep completely under wraps.
They would ostracize me in what they would consider “best for the children”. My leaving avoids all this.
It’s a very complex situation when dealing with my generation. Old teachings are deeply ingrained.
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You are very right in that. I find anything with a sizable amount of Sativa in it can be a trigger for that. Of course, that makes sense though.
I’m sure my whole family knows I smoke. It’s not a great big thing for them (bunch of old moonshiners anyway). I just don’t talk about it with them. I am a pretty private person to begin with but it’s on a need to know basis. Why make it a point if it’s not a point?
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Just grab’em in tha puthy! 
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As far as God knows I’m a good person, no seriously I think you can worship at home with your wife. I feel close to God when I’m in the forest or by the rivers.
I enjoy communion with others sometimes but organized religion always leads to trouble in my opinion
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That’s kinda where we’re at too. @Trowertripper
And that’s OK.
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