Seriously? So they are mad they are alive? 
I fully agree with your brother in law! I donāt have the best relationship with my mom, in fact she screwed up so much in my life I despised her for a long time, but STILL Iād be there when the time comes . People are fuct
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I know. Itās fucked.
I didnāt get along with my parents for a long time but that was a long time ago.
But still. 5 years. And youāre a short trip down the highway. Ungrateful angry jerkoff.
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Ya thatās just messed up. Thereās reasons I can fully understand. Iāve had girls Iāve known who were assaulted, or friends whose parents beat them senseless, used their savings to fund their drug habits etc. stuff like that. But it would have to be pretty damn drastic for that. My step-mom who is now my dads ex tried hard to keep him away from us for years, and I held a grudge there as there were years I rarely saw him (like 5-6) but the day he left her and moved back out here we reunited and have been best friends since. Water under the bridge, as I age I understand the value of TRUE family/friends much more than ever before and I absolutely cherish my REAL good/close friends as much as family and my family although kind of estranged lately still gets my unconditional love
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If Iām being wise we didnāt get along because we are the same.
Gotta deal with that at some point. Canāt hate on yourself.
But nothing egregious like you mention. Just rough childhoods. I would understand some anger but seething self destructive anger, I donāt get it.
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Mom is blind, dad broke his hip in January, going over to fix their computer AGAIN today.
They have been married for 73 years, cranky as hell most of the time.
Both are quality people and set the best of examples for me & my brothers.
Iām a lucky man.
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Yeah lucky I hear you. If you told me, back in the day, that Iād be the good one, Iād have laughed in your face.
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Both of my parents have passed. Meeting and interaction with older people shows how much this ungrateful children is occurring. Itās really f(;ked. We met a neighbor taking care of my mother in law who was the same age. She was wealthy also. She sorted everything out so a 24/7 aid could take care of her in her home. The kids put her in a home a half hour away. This was done so they could visit her with the grandkid. They never came. She died after 6 months!
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My FIL and stepMIL took care of her mother, in their home for years.
There is a sister who wanted her ashes taken to Brampton. She wanted to be spread on the farm.
A fight about ashes. Like your opinion matters.
Things can get really ugly with end of life/money involved/control/regret/bitterness.
I was also reading about geriatric prostitutes in Korea because society has changed so suddenly and become so westernized that children donāt take care of their aging parents anymore. Grandma on the street giving $10 handjobs to survive.
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Itās horrible
The oldest sister is a multi millionaire. She could have made everything easy, but wanted nothing to do with it. So the pot growing felon and black sheep daughter took care of her. When she died the oldest wanted the funeral in nj at her church. She got all this support and sympathy for taking care of her mother! She showed up like 6 times in 4 years. Truly disgusting
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I bet you my share of the will that my brother will show up for the reading of the will.
And yeah, absent siblings, and the drama between even them, makes it worse.
āIāve been to Brampton twice in my whole life and Iām not going to rest there.ā
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Credit for that astute analogy goes to @Indicana_Jones.
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I canāt take the bet 
. Heāll be there for sure
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I find the whole thing really quite disgusting.
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Anytime my man! Always happy to share my creations š«”
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lol! Iām definitely not having kids so they are forced to look after me when Iām old. I would never saddle some other person with that bullshit. Just float me out on the iceberg thanks.
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Doubt Iāll make it there tbch so Iām not worried if I do, no way Iām asking my kids to wipe my ass etc. Iāll be the stinky, stubborn old guy with a house full of pot plants when they come in too take me away theyāll be like WTF 
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I have a neighbour who is going into long term care. Heās young. Heās got a neurological disorder. Not your average rest home granny.
But to have PSWs come and manage him becomes too expensive (say the powers that be) and it becomes more cost effective just to move him into LTC. Where, IMO, he doesnāt belong. Itās a business decision not a humanitarian one.
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Iāll try to expire near the curb.
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