Mrs Pigeon and I really feel for you and your wife @Pawsfodocaws . Mrs. P has chronic health problems and knows in her way the seemingly never ending shit show you and your Mrs are dealing with.
We hope you get some answers as soon as possible with everything in consideration so both your wife, you and your entire family can start the true healing together.
Thank you that hits home, she has been dealing with harsh medical issues her whole life. Now its getting more complicated. Hopefully we can find a solution, or a step in the right direction.