Long story short, my wife submitted the divorce document. Married 8 years, 2 kids. Feel weird, kinda hollowed out. Sucks losing someone you actually love, and watching it all collapse in your own very eyes. We just banged last night… bi polar disorder really has confused her recently and I’ve tried everything possible. She just won’t seek help.
Married young(21), her (20). We went from nothing to owning businesses, building a brand new home, and moving to a high rise in Seattle. We still own a small business, so I don’t know what will happen.
It sounds like we are still together, but she just wants to remove the marriage “status”.
Damn bro, I’m sorry to hear about ur rough times. Nothing I say will take away the pain u feel. At the very least, I hope it’s as smooth a transition that it can be.
Mgtow is the only safe way. Marriage isn’t feasible for men in today’s social climate. Along with the incentives women have to divorce. With the system stacked in their favor.
I don’t have any experience with that sort of loss, but we’re all here for you. If they can help me out of a depression spiral heading towards suicide I’m sure they can help you.
I’m just an old timer, but I’ve been there and the road regardless of how it goes form here is still a road leading somewhere. My ex wife and mother of my children was also diagnosed bipolar and I think I have somewhat of an idea of the dichotomy you are having to work with and learn at the same time. It’s not fun when the one you care for and love completely changes from moment to moment without warning. My marginal advice would be to take this time to really look back at the last 8 plus years and mediate/pray/think about what ignited that love. What are the things you love(d) most about her personality? What changed about how you feel when you think about those feelings from back then now?
I would also like to consider the info about having “banged” the night before. beyond the obvious, why did you two hookup? If there is concern about being together as a couple, it may be confusing one or both of you as to what the heck is really going on, especially with someone that is bipolar could be getting very confusing signals they can’t comprehend and spirals that person into a fog of confusion that probably manifests into odd statements and actions from them. If your having sex, there may be a connection you both are striving to reconnect with. It may sound touchy feely but it could be the opening conversation to more productive conversations.
In the end, love those kids, you sound like a caring father and concerned husband but I have always held strong to never speak negatively about the kids mom to them regardless of whether you stay together or not. And maybe, possibly look into bipolar disorders and anything you can garner from that to help you help her and your family going forward if you haven’t done so already.
These! They help so much. Shark tank when you just want to be emotional with no worries and medical section obviously for when there’s a need to discuss how this wonderful plant helps you or someone/something you know.
You nailed it. I had originally signed the document around 5 months ago. She had an absusive money hungry father, and honestly imo has a bad view of men in this world. We had agreed to just wait, but of course this was a long term expected thing. I just personally had no idea she would act upon it with mania. Media has really worked up her opinion of men and it seems like this is getting worse worldwide.
No amount of herb in the world can ease my mind off of it. I have my own set of issues to work with,like everybody out there, but to put it into perspective I never dream, but I just had the worse nightmare of being alone.
Also, I will have to remove redo all our insurance, health insurance, I believe. Even still living together, we will now have to file separate taxes and potentially pay more. It’s just a mess.
Sorry for what your going through. No way am I qualified to give advice but I will tell you a couple things I learned after the big D.
-forgive ASAP…try to not carry anger…ends up hurting the holder anyway.
-time will heal…even when it doesn’t seem possible.
-kids are resilient and will adapt…try to put them first and make their well-being your focus.
Peace to you!!
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As a child of divorce I can’t agree more.
My mother carried her anger with her for years and while it was for the best I didn’t let my father into my life until he cleaned up his act I’m glad he’s in my life now.
In my case my father had severe addiction to hard drugs that took over his life. His rock bottom happened at Grandma’s wake when I told him he’s dead to me and I didn’t want to ever see him again. I was still holding anger for the abuse on my mother while she was pregnant with me.
Moral of the story is there is always a reason. Never let your kids hold anger for arbitrary reasons. Mental health issues suck and I speak from personal experience here. Unfortunately I don’t have bipolar, but I have something they can’t figure out they were convinced was bipolar since I was 4. I have similar mania moments and honestly without vegging myself once in awhile I couldn’t work through my issues. Once I get myself couchlocked I usually am stuck with my thoughts and can barely move for about an hour. of course if I have to I can, but I just lose all motivation to act on impulses and that’s the goal. I work through my worst problems at those times while I can’t act on impulse and do something rash.
If nothing else chock out a couple of hours each day to yourself if you need to get stoned AF to deal with emotions. No shame here. Only Support. A good cry is cathartic and don’t let any gym Bros tell you otherwise. Why does their opinion of you matter?
Good luck famalam! Won’t give any ‘relationship’ advice cause this guy isn’t perfect or anywhere near close… But I would say time to do YOU my man! Keep your head up and be the best father you can be. <3
Thank you all. It’s tough sometimes when you don’t have many family members remaining, and not many real life friendships besides the daily interaction of the same people.
Time to buy 20-50 acres somewhere and live my dream lol.
They help so much. Shark tank when you just want to be emotional with no worries and medical section obviously for when there’s a need to discuss how this wonderful plant helps you or someone/something you know.
