I’ve heard of kids being taken from legal growers… that’s the only harm, but it’s a gnarly one.
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What grow? Those are tomatoes. Sure dad. Quiet and eat your pasta
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For me theres no hiding anything at my place. I want my son to be educated at home. Im in a legal state. I’ve had several talks to him about my experiences with the plant and made it clear if he decides he wants to try to please come see old dad first.
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I have a 5 year old and she knows we have plants. Just not what they are. She’s helps plant the seeds pretty much the whole deal but never seen an actual flower.
I also don’t hide it at all from her because my parents had that kind of thing for me and I ended up going extra hard in the opposite direction. I also am a big proponent of Just because I do something doesn’t mean she can. For instance Cussing, I cuss/ listen to music that cusses and if you were to ask my daughter now to say a bad word, she would reply along the lines of “I cant say that, but my daddy can.”
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This is an interesting topic. For sure one I’ve explored as I have kids. It came down to my own childhood. My parents smoked all the time. Still do. I always just knew. Knew not to talk to about it out side of the house. I was maybe 11-12 when they came clean. Both hard working individuals. So it’s never been a bad thing. Morally ambiguous. Just a political point of interest. My kids however live the military life. Straight and narrow cause that would be devastating. Got out in 17 got back into smoking it cause good god did I miss it. Hid it from them for a few more years until my state started to legalize. That’s when I came clean. The youngest was just like ya I know. The oldest was like……oh that’s what that smell is that smells like your family. Since I’ve picked gardening back up. The youngest could care less. Zero interest. The oldest he’s a bleeding heart and just truly loves things that are live.
That being said they really don’t even care. That’s just something dad’s been working on.
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Let them help in the grow? Make them! “You kids get in there and water. Trim those buds closer, or you’re grounded.” I mean, you have to reward them for good work too, but making them do the heavy lifting is key to developing the kind of men and women that have the skills you will want them to have growing your flowers when you are too old to do so anymore for yourselves. 🫡
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i’ve went through it twice and working on the third time. first time my daughter was 16 when she came to live with us and was the one who asked if i wanted to hit a joint so we did. she did not know we were growing under her bedroom though. when our mutual son was born i had to quit growing and she didn’t let me grow again with him in the house due to not getting him taken away if i got busted. he did not even know we smoked until his mom died. a friend was staying over the night of the funeral and smelled the smoke which had wafted from the garage. i forgot to turn on the fan immediately.
with this one she doesn’t know we smoke yet and we will probably continue to hide that. we go into the office to talk. good ventilation prevents questions from being asked. she does know that i grow hemp though, has seen the small flower chamber i had in this house before taking it to the farm. my granddaughter also loves growing things and all things alive and outdoors and the new daughter adores her so she will probably just fall right into the horticulturist lifestyle along with the rest of us.
a policy i’ve long had with kids is never to lie to them, not even santa claus and the easter bunny. i have always told them that some folks believe this or that and that i don’t. i never blow it when the moms give the santa presents though, just tell them when they get older that i never once lied to them about it. i have complete trust from my son because of it. he says when he gets out of the military he’ll burn one with me. i do tell them all the time that there are things that i won’t tell them and explain how it’s better than just lying. when they’re old enough they can know and they usually understand. just my $0.02.
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