I think this is a very good idea but you should be careful not to unload your grief onto her grief.
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Oh never…I’m pretty sure my pain doesn’t hold a candle to what she’s feeling now.
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To go back to some of your earlier points:
If I respond with “I’m well thank you” I’m probably not well.
There are places I go where no one, not even you, can help me. It’s a lonely ride.
The absolute best you can do is make me a sandwich because if I’m out of sorts then I probably haven’t eaten either.
It sounds like you were a good friend. Remember that. It’s the best any of us can do.
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Damn brother. So sorry to hear about this loss. Losing close friends is the worst.
By best friend died in a car crash like 30 years ago. Some days I still miss him and cry all these years later.
Sending you supporting vibes. 
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I like this.
Sometimes people are past the pity party stage, and are deep enough to know they are fucked up and there’s the feeling that nothing anyone can do to change it which creates an even bigger gap if its attempted.
A sandwich in this case is an example of a mother’s unrelenting love, tho I am not a mother, I can give that ‘sandwich’ anytime for free with open ears eyes and heart.
It cost us nothing, but is our most valuable currency. It’s value gains interest over time.
There’s a piece of me,good or bad, that I see in all others. You’ve been a good friend, as evidenced by this thread.
I love you guys 
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Right back atcha @breadwinner and not just because bread is an important component of a sandwich.
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Sometimes i feel like im trying to love my ratchet buddies the same way I try and love my enemies. But this is the way…
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It takes a lot of courage to express your feelings honestly. Much easier to deflect with jokes like some people I know.
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Here’s to you @Hashton_Kusha , brother from another.
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Appreciate it man. Be safe.
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She came to me, my best friend’s mother wanted to see me, she was worried about me, Imagine that, she was worried about how I was dealing with this and had to check on her other son(me)…smh 
that made me cry and after seeing her face to face I realized that I’m not okay…I’m not okay…I miss my brother.
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I am very sorry and sending prayers for you.
Sometimes there is nothing you can do. I have been in a similar state myself, and lost my closest friend to addiction. You can be there for them, offer help, do all the things you did, but if they don’t want to take action, they aren’t going to and there’s nothing anyone can do.
I hope you can get through this ok and have some support(besides virtual OG support ).
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Thank u so much
I’m Sending love and positivity. The bong rips I take today are in you and your families honor. Wish I could pack a bowl and hand it to you right now
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I didn’t read all of this thread because I wanted to jump in with my perspective…
I think our actions matter. As a formerly suicidal person, I needed support and help. I think people often say there’s nothing others could’ve done because it’s more comforting and healthy to say that than to second guess every action.
So I think what I’m saying is what you did matters. You tried. Lots of people don’t understand mental health because we live in a society that did NOT prioritize or even recognize mental health to a healthy enough degree for hundreds of years. You can encourage others to be more considerate and we all can try and and better.
It’s healthy to look to the future, not the past. I just want to say, you know, our actions matter. People need our help sometimes. So just try, thats what counts for the most.
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I hope that sounded nice because I’m not trying to be rude to anybody. I’m just saying you tried to be there for Joe. You’re trying to tell people to be there for their friends and loved ones. We should all try to.
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That’s it man…I can’t except that there was nothing I could’ve done. I feel what I was doing was helping him not think about ending it all. I honored his request to fallback…& 2wks later he’s dead. I can’t shake the guilt I feel. I could’ve been there to grab his arm and stop him from pushing that goddamn needle man. I shouldn’t have left him alone.
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You did try. Sometimes we have to decide if we should be pushy or to listen. You chose to listen.
Please don’t blame yourself.
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Not only that but you’re obviously trying to make sure we all help our loved ones.
Please don’t try and hold yourself responsible. You tried and I really see that
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Yeah, i still feel guilty about my bro passning away. I know 100% logicaly that i did everything i could. But that feeling in the chest wont go away because i wish so much that he was here with me today. Thats just me, even after 3 years and a prison sentence between everything. I still feel it, i just gotta live with it. I really hope you are better at handling these types of emotions then me. But If you aint, remember that you are not alone feeling this and its suppose to be “normal”.
Much love
Pz
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