i’m adhd/autism life has been very interesting and a little difficult, I passed the adhd down to my son he has struggled throughout his life, he got into heroine at 17 managed to quit for a while 2 times, 3 years ago he was heavy into crack and heroine then just about this time of the year he was sentenced to 90 days prison, he did his time clean came out of prison managed get a job then he got his own flat, he lived mostly at mine during the hard time I cant explain how hard that was it was very extreme. he’s still working on the railway through the pandemic
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I have also passed mental health issues to my children unfortunately I got them from my parents. My mental health issues at time make me a hard person to love and I’m definitely not everyone’s cup of tea
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Update in my son.
I successfully took him to inpatient rehabilitation center. He is still on my health insurance.
He had his backpack packed and he was ready to go into the program.
After a rehab evaluation, the insurance company would not approve inpatient care.
We do not have $16000 to pay for a 30 day program out of pocket.
So we started looking into sober house and outpatient services.
Yesterday, he had his best druggie friend pick him up. I saw him get in the car with his packpack.
His fuel: In the days prior he had received his ebt card for food stamps.
And he received a lump sum of $2600 for back weeks of unemployment.
No car.
No job.
No problem sleeping around at ‘friends’ places…As long as he has drug money to fuel the partying.
Makes me mad and sad. I feel so helpless and useless.
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Are you in the US? Try the Salvation Army, they have a 6 month rehab program. A friend of mine just successfully completed and is now in sober living. Personally, I like the idea of the long rehab as it can teach them how to live again without drugs
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For alot of people the old ‘move somewhere where you don’t know anybody and can’t find drugs’ works too. Have any family out in country or something?
Sadly it’s probably pretty hard to find places where drugs aren’t readily available these days…
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Inpatient rehab services shot down…
My son then had the option of sober house, and outpatient rehab.
He just needed to make the call and inquire. (Something he had already done for inpatient rehab.)
He comes up with stupid reasons for why things wont work for HIM.
Trying to let go is breaking my heart, mind, and soul.
Just venting. Ho hum.
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I suggested Salvation Army because I think it’s free. No 16 grand
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As frustrating as this must be it also might be a good sign.
My thinking is, since his bags were packed, he was ready to accept help. Then he got screwed out of real help and anything else seems inadequate.
I agree about people and places. The hardest part for me was having to leave my drinking “friends” behind.
All the best.
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Much appreciated @Meesh Will keep that in mind…for if/when I ever see him again.
All thru his life we have been thru counseling and “shrinks.” Roller coaster ride with no off switch.
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Agreed. I too have street drug abuse experience from an early age. Most of my teen year friends are either dead or severely mentally effed for life. A few of us made it, I was lucky I had just enough brain to get out.
I never was into alcohol. Do not like beer. Weed is my only addiction. Well, maybe chocolate lil bit. Lol
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Bless your heart @Meesh! You’re not alone. I feel just as you do. I keep reminding myself that everything is temporary.
One Love…
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At first I wondered why my old roommate went straight to Guam from college 
& he later explained why. 
Evidently spent a lot of time running through the jungle(some group sport thing) & avoiding snakes. & avoiding the H.
My mom found her exit through a charity ran by the church & spent 9 months on an organic dairy farm. It saved her life & it was truly a court-ordered blessing, awkward as it was visiting mom in jail(only 30 days), she avoided state prison. 
Many thanks for that.
Tangentally 
… the place got sold off soon after to pay for all the litigation of priests raping boys(&c.) & ended a long tradition with a better than average success in sobriety.
@GramTorino my heartfelt sympathies. Dope has fucked up my family too. My own bitter hatred of herion/etc. lends sympathy to how the Philipines’ nutcase-in-chief is doing.
I have no patience for the ‘legalize everything’ argument. Sorry in advance to any who disagree.
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That was nice…until the whole priests boys thing lol. I’d love to go to a cool organic farm for a few months just for an interesting change of scenery!
I’m reading a book about neuroplasticity right now and it’s really fascinating. They’ve actually proven that ‘novelty’ stimulates our brains to create new circuits and weaken old ones. Something like a new living situation, or even learning a new skill can really change the way you think and help break old patterns.
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Worked for me in 1980 …until I met somebody.
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yea my man we all need to vent some times it is not good to keep stuff that brother you to your self it help to talk i am here to listen if you want to talk to me @regulator peace
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As some of you may know by reading past post from me I have marital issues starting back in Early Nov of 2019 doctor put me on lexapro for depression and trazadone for help with insomnia issues neither IMO really helped . Fast forward early may this year things were starting to get bad , my mind was starting to wonder into some (dark places) my BP was not being taken care of by my meds of lisinopril and cardizem and was not working wondering “what the hell” Iv come to the realization that the anxiety/ or combo of depression was elevating my BP then I found just recently a great source of CBD oil with just a few doses Iv noticed a complete 180 change even though it’s a great price I feel I can make a better med with a full spectrum type cannabis flower higher in CBD , My mind and body are much more calm now and BP is looking great ! Still having sleep issues but will be working towards that issue . Maybe I’ll try melatonin, and some of the omegas mentioned above as will as start growing some lemon balm that I can start infusing into some oil/alcohol tinctures can’t wait for my magic butter machine to get here !
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I’ll second that brother! Probably saved me from either going to the hospital or the funny farm!
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Iv not really viewed this thread in it’s entirety but Iv read recently that spearmint which I have a large patch of it helps calm the mind and body as well when made as a tea Iv made it once need to continue with it to help keep my patch in check! Lol
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Combine it with THCA, not decarboxylated, and it works even better IME.
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How did these findings come about? 
Randomness or persistence? 
@Tinytuttle I’m relieved to hear you’re on a better remedy. Keep on keepin on with the CBD, throwin 
s away 
Try some lemon balm from the grocery store. @gordongecko has helped more people than he can know. 
Best wishes, friends.
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