My granddad asked me to do the same thing whilst he was dying in the bed of cancer.
I was young, troubled by mutual affection. After that I only go to close casket funerals.
Easier to remember the better times, I guess…
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If ya need someone to talk to or whatever, sometimes it can be easier to talk to strangers…Just throwing it out there. 
@PGT710
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NPK for people is something like sleep-food-exercise… make sure you’re tending to your own garden, your body. 
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Stay busy. Make sure you’re in as good of health as you can control. I’m right there with you. I have been out of work, and in poor health, so I’m having a lot harder time coping than normal. I went to the store today and I was on fight or flight pretty much non stop. In hindsight, I could’ve fixed it ahead of time. Now I know for next time. I’ve needed regular company lately to star away from dark places, this site is a good outlet for that. And bonus, I’ve noticed people don’t mind rambling as much here!
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Earplugs help. Be in your own bubble. 
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I wasn’t on my own, otherwise absolutely. I find 15-20db noise reduction great for going out and about, but still hearing a bit. I wear them at work and recreation, which are pretty similar venues. Bars, stages, festivals. They pop out easy to hear someone speaking quietly, but I can carry a conversation at normal volume. You take a bit to get use to the quietness; it feels like at first you can’t hear well. Sit and around the house with them on listen to some music at the volume you normally do. Talk to your family. It still takes me an hour or so to forget they are in but otherwise no one ever really notices them, but mine are low profile and transparent.
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I think the first question is probably easier but I’ll offer some short advice from a buddhist monk.
stopping, calming. awareness of breath, no control, just recognition.
take care of your anger like cradling a baby in your arms.
my apologies for a brief reply but i’ll PM you some book recommendations.
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Do you drink coffee or any other caffeinated beverage? I noticed a huge reduction in anxiety, irritability and intrusive thoughts after quitting. Better energy and sleep too.
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While I don’t disagree with any of that, I will offer a bit of differing advice; focus on control. But not everything, not all at once. You take each step out of your comfort zone as if you were walking into a river. If you get there and relax, you’ll be carried away safely. If you get there and try to pilot yourself, depending how hard against them flow you’re going, you’ll struggle a bit but you have control. Then there is the final option, you fight it wildly and drown.
Life is full of several rivers. Some are deeper, some faster. Thing is you have some say in the matter, you can choose how you enter the flow. Don’t expect to swim when you haven’t practiced wading. I get called a pessimist for this but I see it just as reality. Life is gonna suck; just expect it. Sometimes you’re surprised and it doesn’t, but eh, those days come and go.
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agreed. 
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Some dark times here. Especially tonight. Anyone make it to the other side want to chat? PM
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As someone on the spectrum myself who struggles with GAD, severe ADHD, and OCD it can sound counterintuitive, but just learning why certain triggers happen has made it significantly easier to keep calm. I used to snap at nearly everyone being stuck in constant fight or flight.
This next part isn’t as helpful, but once I found out the source of a huge chunk of my issues I was able to get some feel of control. Sorry I can’t explain how. It was all by feel not direction.
I just gave up control of my issues and they eased up on their own after getting worse briefly.
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Perhaps, this is that worse part. This is an all time low. And I’m not panicking. That’s what worries me.
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Oh man… there is some advice in there that are… I guess I’m not qualified to say wrong; but man. Some good ones in there too. I got advice from a friend the other day: don’t isolate yourself, surround yourself with people you know who’ll lead you in the correct direction as you try to make sense of things. I know for me, it’s hard to reach out. I give my friends full permission to bug me to talk or go out whenever they feel like. Worst case scenario I’m busy, but usually I’m just isolated dying for fellowship but unable to reach out.
While the change always has to come from inside, you can help or hurt your chances simply by your surroundings. Just like plants!
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Sounds like yer on the right track, positive frame of mind and all!
I’m sort-A the opposite, avoiding the phone (99% of the time) and rarely reach out to ppl. I guess it’s easier for me to stay in the rut and not deal with real life shit.
It also has to do with your surroundings, mine are crap ATM. Seriously thinking of moving out west, just can’t deal with the small town mentally anymore!
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